Social Anxiety and seeking discomfort

Social anxiety is not just about being shy or introverted. It’s a constant battle, a crippling fear of social interactions that can make everyday activities feel insurmountable. For many of us in our twenties, it’s like walking a tightrope between wanting to make meaningful connections and being paralyzed by the thought of interaction.

Moving to a new country amplifies these feelings. You’re not just adapting to a new culture but also trying to find your place within it. It’s a journey of self-discovery, filled with highs and lows. In my case, moving from Mumbai to Canada for further studies introduced me to a whole new world. The transition from studying Artificial Intelligence and Big Data Analytics to working as a library associate in Barrie’s public library wasn’t just a career shift; it was a leap out of my comfort zone.

The library, far from the quiet sanctuary many might imagine, became my arena. Every day, I was forced to interact more, challenge my social anxiety, and slowly find comfort in the discomfort. It’s been a quiet a journey of pushing boundaries, from taking up new hobbies like photography and biking to embracing the community that surrounds me.

This path hasn’t been easy. The feeling of being alone, even when surrounded by people, is a constant companion. Yet, it’s also a reminder of the strength it takes to face our fears head-on. In my twenties, trying to figure out what I’m good at, I’ve learned that sometimes, what we’re truly good at isn’t tied to our degrees or job titles. It’s found in the small victories, the moments we choose to step out of our comfort zone, and the connections we dare to make despite the fear.


Crippling social anxiety may be part of my story, but it’s not the entire narrative. It’s a chapter that has taught me resilience, empathy, and the courage to keep moving forward, one step at a time. And for anyone walking a similar path, remember, you’re not alone. Together, we can navigate the complexities of our twenties, finding our strengths and making our mark, one interaction at a time.